Friday Love Song...

Last night I went to the Muse concert with a great friend. Both of us single girls just trying to get through the dating wasteland of LA without too many wounds. But last night, it was just about us, and good music.



But I have finally seen the light
I have finally realized
I need to love
I need to love

i may have had some bad dates, but this lady wins 'worst date' by far.

Yeah, I've never had a date try to kill me... eeek.

She plans on suing Match because they let a killer onto their website. What do you think about the story?
Read the article HERE.


I tried online dating for like a month... I did not like it one bit. The guys I was meeting on the site were just too serious for me; and in serious, I mean that they wanted a relationship right now. And don't get me wrong, I want a relationship too, but I'm okay with just dating until that right one comes along. I don't see myself going on a date and then putting myself in a 'relationship' immediately after, and that was the pressure i was feeling from the dating site. 
I prefer 'traditional' ways of meeting guys, through mutual friends, etc. And after reading this article, I think I'll stick to my 'traditional' ways for sure now. 
Although, you never know who a person is until you get to know them, so please be safe out there when dating... this goes for guys too, cos some women can be crazy too. 

who threw an Angry Bird at my face.

Yes, you read that right... he threw an Angry Bird at my face. Luckily, it was a plush Angry Bird, but an Angry Bird nonetheless.

So I met this guy through mutual friends on a group bowling outing. He was fun, cute, good sense of humor... became friends on FB... chatted daily... he drove up from San Diego to visit me in LA.
We planned to have lunch, it was a mid-week date so I was at work, and then I would go back to work and we'd meet up for dinner when I got out. Lunch was great, great conversation, everything was going really well. After work we decided to go to CityWalk and have dinner and just hang out there.
Dinner was good, we talked, he was funny... things were going really well. After dinner we walked around and I told him that we'd need to go to the candy store so I could buy some mints that I love. We get to the candy store and everything is still great... like really great. Then... we came across an Angry Bird display...
me: "You know, I never will understand why these things are so popular?"
him: "have you played the game?"
me: "yeah I played it, but just never found it to be that addicting and just didn't really like it"
him: "you're joking right? these are probably the greatest things ever"
me: "yeah i just don't get..."

   BAM!

   Angry Bird to the face!

Yes, before I could even finish speaking, an Angry Bird was thrown at my face. Not only was it thrown at my face, but it HIT me on my face! And although they may be 'plush' those things still hurt when they hit your face at a force that may have unnecessary considering I was standing not more than 3 feet away from the guy who threw it at me.
me: "did you just throw that at my face?"
him: *Laughing HYSTERICALLY*
me: "really?"
him: "you deserved it for not liking Angry Birds" *Laughing*

I went on a couple more dates with this guy. I know, I know, this should have been a sign! But, when you're a single girl in her late 20's, you make exceptions and excuses for guys that you later regret. But how else is a girl to learn, right? sigh...

"The End of Courtship?"

Since I wasn't able to post all weekend and yesterday (burlesque shows and Lady Gaga concerts), I need to make up for it. :)

Here's an interesting article that came out a couple weeks ago that I think definitely relates to what most 20-somethings, and according to some of my friends, even 30-somethings are going through with the 'dating world'. I'm pretty old-fashioned when it comes to dating. I like for guys to call me, I like for them to plan a date with me, and I like for them to walk to my door to pick me up for a date. So seeing how the majority of people use texting, Facebook postings, and dating sites; I'm just left feeling like a black sheep.

 Find a link to it here, courtesy of The Frisky: The End of Courtship? 



So, what do you think? Is courtship dead?

God, I hope not.

who called at the last minute to 'hang out'...

Wait... isn't this almost every guy??

Saturday night, a potential interest calls me up after 7pm to ask me if I wanted to get together that night for drinks. 
Ummm... I have already made my plans for the night by 7pm. Even if all I'm going to do is stay at home and watch a movie solo, I've made my mind up about and have probably already picked out a movie by 7pm.
Luckily, I didn't have to tell him that I was already comfy at home with my pups and about to pop in the latest Zac Efron flick; instead, I was able to tell him that I already had plans for the night and I was on the road with my girlfriends to go see a burlesque show in a city an hour away. Most people would think it was crazy to drive an hour to a kinda shady city to see a burlesque show... but for me, it is completely normal. And, it was The Addams Family vs. The Munsters themed show! HOW COULD I MISS IT?!
His reaction: "you're going all the way there for a show?! wow. well, be safe out there. maybe we can meet up this week or next. have a good night."
Yeah, maybe we can meet up on another day... if he doesn't call me after 7.

Why don't guys like to plan ahead?
Would this had even been a date, or just 'hanging out'?
'Dating' has me so confused.

Friday Love Song...

Love, love is strange 
Lot of people take it for a game 
Once you get it 
You'll never wanna quit 
After you've had it
You're in an awful fix 

...who told me about his DUI within the first hour of our first date.

My most recent date, just 4 days ago to be exact... a tad bit of background, his family is friends with  my parents, he just got back from Afghanistan, I met him BRIEFLY when I went to his uncle's house to pick up my puppy (he lives in his uncle's guest house). Again, let me stress that we met BRIEFLY. Basically got each other's names, I took notice of his Dodger flag, mentioned it, he said he loves the Dodgers... and that was about it. 
Okay, now onto the good stuff...
First, he called my dad to get my number. My Dad gives it to him... my poor Dad, he just really wants me to have a boyfriend already. 
So, he calls me that night around 5, I answer. The first thing I notice are these long pauses, like delays, when he talked to me.

And i'm thinking "damn, this guy has a shitty phone" or he's still in Afghanistan and we're communicating via satellite.

So he asks what i'm doing and I say cooking dinner, and then long pause...  

he says he wants to go out to dinner and drinks and I say sure, and then he says"well, since you already have dinner plans tonight, how about tomorrow night?"

and I'm thinking "damn, this guy is quick! whoa!"

So I tell him I'm going to text him my address... long pause... he tells me that he doesn't get texts on his phone, oh he tells me he doesn't get texts on his new 'smart phone.' (who calls phones 'smart phones' anymore? aren't they all just the standard phones now??)

So then I'm convinced his phone just sucks, with these long delays and no texting.

But then comes the date...

I was wrong... he just talks with a MASSIVE delay.

We got to an Italian restaurant and the waiter brings the wine list, I decline. Then he declines.

Then about a good 10-15 minutes later he says "so, I noticed.... that you turned down the wine list....... is it because you don't drink?"

and I tell him that I drink, socially, but didn't feel like having any wine

...long pause...

Since no one's talking, I say "and you? you turned it down too"

and he looks at me like he doesn't understand my question.

So then I say "do you drink?"

"oh, do I drink? .....hah! oh boy...... yes... I do like to drink. I love to drink"

and i'm just like ok.

Then he adds "yeah... the good thing... about you not drinking, is that.... you won't get a DUI"

and then he laughs.

I say "well let's hope not."

and then he says "yeah.... I have one under my belt already... got that out of the way"

AWK-WARD.

Is that something that turns a girl on? "Hey baby, i got a DUI... wanna go out?"

I mean it is one thing to like the 'bad boy' but no, this is just too much. DUI's are no joke. And I am not impressed. 

The date went on and on, just more awkwardness... more... long... pauses...

Sigh, what can I say? 

There will not be a second date.